Find out – right now – if you have “PURPLE MONKEY SYNDROME”

How often do you say, ‘Yes’
when you really want to say ‘No’?

Do you feel like you have a target on your back
that says, “Ask me! I’ll do it!”

Do you feel resentful because people seem to expect you to help them so you feel you CAN’T say ‘No.’


Have you tried saying, ‘No’ but can’t make it stick?

Are you afraid of saying, ‘No,’
because you might ruin the relationship?

Do you hate saying ‘No’
because of the awful GUILT you feel?

If you answered, ‘That’s me!’ to any of these questions, chances are you have

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What IS Purple Monkey Syndrome?

It’s the ‘Monkey-on-Your-Back’ that others want
YOU to have instead of keeping it for themselves –
where it belongs!

…It’s the mother-in-law who insists that you and the family come for Thanksgiving dinner – every year – when some years you’d like to stay home.

…It’s the co-worker who always asks you to cover for her, but is never available to cover for you.

…It’s the coordinator for the church bazaar who expects that you’ll volunteer – AGAIN – for a time-consuming position that you really don’t have time to do.

…It’s YOU saying ‘No’ at first, but somehow the outcome is always ‘Yes’ and you wonder what just happened.

…It’s YOU feeling tired and angry and stuck, not knowing what to do to get out of feeling that way.

…It’s YOU wishing you had some magic wand to make this problem go away.

The good news is: You’re NOT ALONE!!!
Millions of us struggle with
Purple Monkey Syndrome daily.

The EVEN BETTER NEWS IS:
Getting out of Purple Monkey Syndrome
is easier than you think!!!

The ‘magic’ lies in a few simple techniques that when applied regularly, will begin to work wonders – ALMOST IMMEDIATELY!

What are the techniques and how do you learn about them???

SIMPLE!

Just sign up HERE for my
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Each week, you’ll receive a specific tip or technique to apply in your own life to eliminate Purple Monkey Syndrome. These tips are practical, motivating and easy-to-use.

As you apply these tips:

You will become more skilled at saying ‘No’ appropriately.

You’ll feel and BE stronger and more empowered.

You’ll feel like you have more CHOICE about whether – and when – to say ‘No.’

You’ll stop treating others’ requests as more important than your own.


You’ll learn to be congruent with your preferences and, as you do, guilt will disappear.

Each Sunday evening, your Purple Monkey Tip will be sent to your email. You’ll have time to read it, think about it and plan how you will apply that tip to the rest of your week.

If you work with and apply even half the tips you’ll receive, you’ll be well on your way to turning around Purple Monkey Syndrome – FOREVER!!!

Sign up TODAY. It’s FREE and it’s FANTASTIC!

Here’s an example of a Purple Monkey Weekly TIP you can use right away!

Purple Monkey Says:

ALWAYS Validate the ‘ASK.’


That means that whatever people want you to do – even if you think it’s outrageous – remember that they have a good reason (to them) to ask for something from you. When you acknowledge the legitimacy of their request from THEIR perspective, they will be more willing to hear a ‘No’ from you without pushing back, at least as hard as they would have if you had not validated their request first.

Here’s some language you can use, depending on the situation.

“That’s a big assignment you have!”
“I can appreciate what you’re trying to accomplish.”
“I know how big a job that is. I’ve done it before, too.”
“I know how much you love to have the family together for the holidays.”
“I know it’s been hard getting volunteers.”

Notice how each statement starts with the pronoun “I” or a third person statement, “That’s a big assignment.” You’re letting them know that it was O.K. to ask, even if you cannot give a ‘Yes’ to their request.

Once you practice validating the ASK, you’ll notice how much more comfortable it is to say ‘No’ and how much easier it is to preserve the relationship.

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Anita Web Weaver is the owner of Design to Shine Consulting, a coaching and training firm. She specializes in helping people Shine in their Career, their Life and their Health – NO MATTER WHAT! For information on how she can help YOU Shine, too contact her at 1-877-499-5460 or Anita@DesigntoShineConsulting.com.
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